"First pregnancy?" she said.
"Oh no, we’ve got a lovely little one year old called Polly" I said proudly.
The sonographer was going about her business very slowly. We’d had a bit of a wait and we were going to have to rush to collect Polly, our one year old from my mum’s.
A couple of minutes past…
"Do you have any twins in the family?" she said casually.
"Heavens no, all clear in that department!" I said, looking at my husband and laughing dramatically.
"Well Mr and Mrs Kirwan, there are two babies in here" she said.
Still, to this current day I can’t tell you my reply. Firstly, because it’s all a blur, I have no clue what I said or did. And secondly, because my mum might read this and I imagine it wasn’t very polite!
So we will go with this ‘ *$*@^£() $@%$ *$&£@(*@£_$ @%$%&@ &@($!£$^%*&^()***’
And wait for it…
DUE DATE – MY BIRTHDAY.
Yes, perfect, thanks for that little bit of icing on this very large piece of cake. Cheers babes!
And there I lied, on the hospital bed for a solid 30 minutes. Staring into space and boring holes into the ceiling. I didn’t know what to think or say, so i said nothing. Adam, my husband sat very still, but i'm pretty sure he just presumed I was thinking about all the food i was going to eat now i was cooking two babies instead of one!
Adam, being that typical male was proud as punch, beaming from ear to ear - he was convinced he had Superman Sperm. But, for the me, mummy, mum, the day-to-day child manager of the house, well I couldn’t actually speak for about 24 hours and i had a merry-go-round of thoughts in my head.
IT IS TWINS.
TWINS? TWO? TWO BABIES.AT.THE.SAME.TIME? TWINS AND A 1 YEAR OLD!
THREE ACTUAL BABIES ALL AT THE SAME TIME?
3 CAR SEAT!? 2 PRAMS? 3 COTS!?
HOW AM I GOING TO CARRY 3 BABIES WITH ONE PAIR OF ARMS?
WE HAVE 15 STEPS UP TO OUR HOUSE!!
I JUST COULD NOT UNDERSTAND. Especially as prior to any pregnancies, my polycystic ovaries suggested that we would struggle conceiving. Possibly ever.
Still to this day, over two years later, I genuinely struggle to get my head around all of the above. I still can’t bring myself to say the T word sometimes.
So, as we approach the girls 2nd birthday, I’ve been reflecting on the last 2 and a half years. From finding out i was cooking two, my twin pregnancy, their safe and royal arrival breastfeeding and slowly learning to cope with 3 under 18 months!
*they arrived on the Queens birthday.
It’s been one hell of a journey, and I’ll try and document as openly and honestly as I can. The ups, the downs and the fun stuff in between.
OUR BEBE HIVE TOP FIVE (TIPS)
- Take your time to digest the information…people are so quick to tell you how lucky you are and how excited you should be. I’m the first to admit these weren’t my initial thoughts and it took me a good minute (read 18 months) to agree.
- Speak to someone who knows…everybody loves to give advice, especially when it comes to pregnancy and babies. Try and find someone who’s been through the whole twin thing. When I found out I was expecting twins I immediately turned to Instagram. I found accounts of women in similar situations like Clemmie Hooper @mother_of_daughters gave me a really good, honest insight into twin parenting. It wasn’t all matchy matchy and tandem feeding. It removed the pressure and gave me an avenue. Don’t be afraid to ask questions!
- Avoid Google for as long as possible! Regrettably the first thing I googled was the actual word, twins. I didn't even understand my own scenario and really didn’t need to start reading about all the details of twins. That put further fear into my brain, which i didn't have the capacity for. It was the last thing of all us needed. Speak to your midwife or consultant and follow their lead.
- Look after you and your babies. Twin pregnancies and having twin babies can be like playing the main role in a Broadway show; people love to look, talk and stare. It can be flattering, but can be hard work when you just want to pop for a loaf of bread. If you're not in the mood to talk about it, make your excuses politely and dart!
- Let people help you. Something I wasn’t very good at it in the beginning (i'll go into this more at a later date). As a mum it can feel like you have to be there for every single second with a new baby/babies. But it does the world of good to have a sleep, wash your hair or even take ten minutes to drink a hot cup of tea. Let whoever wants to help, help and don’t be afraid to ask for it.
So long for now friends, have a great day.